Friday, May 5, 2017
Would you leave your parish because of the priest?
Would you leave your parish because of the priest?
Parishioners and their priest must work together to create a vibrant parish community.
When
I was growing up, my family belonged to a vibrant, close-knit parish
community. It was a parish with a lot of history--my dad grew up there,
and many other families had also been members for decades. My siblings
and I were baptized there, made our first communions there, and
dutifully attended Sunday school there week after week.
The
parish didn't just fill a spiritual need for my family. It filled a
social need, too. My parents became good friends with other young
families, and it wasn't uncommon for us to stay long after the closing
hymn to socialize. That is, until, our parish was assigned a new
priest.
The priest began making large-scale changes--like
eliminating one of the main worship spaces--without consulting the
parishioners who cared so deeply about the parish. Finally, after one
too many changes, my family and others began to leave, and the
close-knit parish community was no more.
Of the 410 U.S.
Catholic readers who participated in our survey, 76 percent say they
have had a similar experience. A new priest comes into their parish and
unilaterally makes decisions that change the culture and community.
Everyone has their own expectations for their parish. It can get tense
when a priest's expectations don't align with those of the lay
leadership and parishioners. That's certainly what happened in my
family's church. When these misaligned expectations lead to concrete
actions, that's when the parish community can change, for better or for
worse.
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